A brief dload of how the day went. I had been called for an interview the day before meanwhile I had been asked to be the MC of the event as well as the decorator. As life would have it, I found myself rushing throughout the entire day.
My interview was @ 3pm btw
11am getting ready, ironing my clothes...
1pm rushing to get more decorations as I had been told that our stock wasn't enough. Got to the decor store only to find NOTHING that matched the theme that we didn't already have, (cutting the story a little shorter) decorated...in minutes as I really didn't have much to do (most of it had already been handled), got home found that my blouse wasn't ironed well enough. Rushed through a stop light NOT on purpose, had my interview, ran out of gas; didn't have any money, attempted to use my savings account but used my chequings instead, which put me in overdraft with interest fees n all #prettypissed.
Bridal shower was to start at 4pm. Rushed...and as u probably would have guessed my very faithful Nigerians...were l8. We kicked it off around 6pm.
Now on to the main, the main, the BRIDAL SHOWER...
For the most part it was all fun and games. We played games such as hot potato, music video, quizes bout the groom answered by the bride, making a wedding dress, etc etc...
Here's what I really gained from the shower...
We had 2 sets of mothers come in to give the bride advice on marriage. The reason I say 2 sets of mothers is because they came at different times and the first set left before the second set arrived. They were in groups of 3. They had one statement in common; "Marriage is an institution, u're constantly learning". The second set of women were of a younger generation, which is what made them so interesting and down to earth.
The first set pretty much gave advice on what to do and when...it was very insightful but I must say the second set of women took it to another level.
After reiterating most of what, if not all the first set of mothers had said...they added more, which was more like..."ok, lets get down to bidness..."
The most salient points which I had planned on sharing with you all are based on Food, Sex and Respect
"A hungry man is an angry man". It is therefore no surprise that food was their first point of discussion. If you cannot prepare good food for ur hubby or at least ensure that he is always well fed, u may have a problem. For ladies, cooking is vital. Personally I don't want a help making food for my hubby. It has to be made by me and if I cannot make certain things I am more than willing to learn. Infact, I'd go to culinary school, Le Cordon Bleu...if thats wot it takes...lol. The beauty of making new dishes is that u keep him in suspense and he always can't wait to come home (no need to "work l8"...lol...jks...none of us would have men that want to "work l8" in JESUS NAME). In the course of this discussion another mother added that if ur food is good u can get certain things out of ur man that u probably may not be able to under normal circumstances (lol..women, we have our ways don't we?). Before u have discussions with him, ensure that he is fed...this creates a receptive heart and mind.
After u're done...
the next best meal for a guy is SEX. Even the bible says not to starve ur hubby of sex. Bear in mind these are Christian mothers...so their values are of high quality and teachings worth listening to. What amused me a bit was when one of our mothers mentioned her code...she called it triple A, which meant ANYWHERE, ANYHOW and ANYTIME...lol..
Another added that a WIFE [this is not for any tom dick and harry...I said WIFE (no messing around with random guys...sex was made for husbands and wives)] should ensure that she smells good, she's always dressed well (never let go of urself even when u're married...its a ridiculous wedding aftermath)...she should try to change the arrangement of things in the room so every now and then he is welcomed to a new environment (somewhat :/)...there was more but this should be enough for y'all...lool
RESPECT (Ephesians 5:33) Wot's the point pretending that ur man has no ego when all men do. It was made clear that a wife should feed their egos. One of the women mentioned that she respects her husband so much that people tease her asking, whether she's the only one that ever had a husband...She calls him "OLOWO ORI MI"...#yoruba. Another mentioned that u feed their egos by giving them ideas on how things should be done and making them feel like they did it...lol...what a trick but I'm so sure it works...she also said that when u're out with other folk, discussing stuff and the best suggestion just happens to be urs, if u deem it fit, say that he came up with it...(he'd know he didn't and appreciate u more for it)...certain times wen u get gifts for the kids, say "daddy got it". This all adds to the basic respect of not insulting him or speaking back to him in public. Respect is the icing on the cake that creates a man that would do anything for you.